he just would rather be single than be with you,” she explains.“My ex told me that I had a lot of potential and he was 'bringing me down by distracting me from my schoolwork! Aja's interpretation is that “he wanted a guilt-free way to break up, so he was trying to convince both of us he was a negative influence on me.” Bottom line, a guy who uses this excuse is looking for the easy way out.Someone who gives you this line is either too lazy to come up with a legitimate reason or too much of a coward to be honest. According to Lieberman, this is yet another commonplace excuse guys give you instead of telling you the truth. Kim* who just graduated from The College of William & Mary, describes a relationship she had: “He was moving a bit fast in the beginning, but I slowed things down because I didn't want to rush into anything,” she says.Although he may very well still be hung up on his ex, if he liked you enough, this wouldn’t be a problem. “And then a month after we became official, he broke it off with the excuse: 'I thought I was ready, but I realized I'm actually not ready to have a girlfriend.'" Talk about ironic!Yes, Shira wanted kids , but not right that second!Besides, she says she was too busy “dating a perpetual man-child.” According to Ashley Marie, a love and relationship coach, what Shira's ex really meant was: "I can't see your future fitting into my future, and I don't want to make the effort to see if we can make that work.” Ouch.
Sharp’s best advice is that “you should take any reason given for a breakup with a big, old grain of salt.
However, “he thinks his weaselly excuse will go across better than the fact that he decided to date somebody else or some other thing that might be hurtful.” We knew it was too selfless to be true.
Lauren Burkett, a collegiette at Florida State University, said her boyfriend broke up with her using this line.
That’s why we put together the worst breakup lines collegiettes have ever heard and asked experts what these excuses truly mean and how to deal with them.
This is probably the most overused and clichéd excuse in the history of dating. D., psychiatrist and author of , “this is supposed to hurt the girl's feelings less, but it's just a way for the guy to feel less guilty.” Worse yet, Jodi R. Smith, president and owner of Mannersmith Etiquette Consulting, says, “Of course it is you.
But in Chloe's case, this was just a convenient way for her ex to avoid admitting that he didn't want to be in their relationship anymore.