They stepped in when I was spending too much time with a girlfriend or started neglecting other important areas of my life.
They raised a flag when a relationship seemed unhealthy.
These people know you as a sinner, and sinners who are never being confronted or frustrated by inconvenient truths are sinners drifting further from God, not towards him.
The truth is that we all need a third wheel — in life and in dating — people who truly know us and love us, and who want what’s best for us, even when it’s not what we want in the moment.
I could go on, and if you’re a part of almost any kind of Christian community, you probably can too.
Even though we’re following Jesus, and reading the same Bible, and aiming for the covenant of marriage, our dating advice can be surprisingly wide and diverse.
We think we’re leaning on others as we wade into all the material online, but we’re often just surrendering to our own cravings and ignorance.
You will not truly love anyone else if you do not love God first and most.
And no one will truly love you if they do not love God more than they love you.
If our heart is not there — if our soul is not already safe through faith, if our mind is distracted and focused on other, lesser things, if our best strength is being spent on the things of this world — jobs, sports, shopping, entertainment, relationships, and on God — we simply will not date well. Listen to Jesus, and “love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” Seek him first (Matthew ), and dating will be added according to his perfect plan and timing. It’s not the first rule, but I have found that it is a “golden rule” that most often makes the difference between healthy and unhealthy Christian dating relationships.
But after embracing and applying the first and greatest commandment, I have found that the . If you’re not a Christian — if you haven’t dealt with God before trying to date — you don’t have a chance of having a truly healthy Christian relationship with someone else.We leave the safety of the doctor’s office and choose the freedom and ease of the gas station convenience store.