You just go with it because he is cute, seems genuine, gives you attention, and you might just think he'll change and realize you're "the one."2. That way you can't see incoming texts when you ask to see pictures on his phone that you guys just took of each other. He gives you just enough attention to keep you around but not enough to actually move forward in your "relationship."9. He refers to himself here and there as "a loner." Time to walk the F away.14.He always has a reason why you can't meet up with him. He is a shitty communicator and takes forever to text you back.Fast forward to 2 years ago, I stopped drinking, began therapy, became more in touch with me and living my life in the present and commenced on a road of gratitude and appreciation for the blessings in my life.I tried extremely hard to right so many wrongs I’d been responsible for in my relationship with my husband.I knew he loved me more than I loved him, and knew he would never leave me.Apparently this is common for those of us with daddy abandonment issues and a history of sexual abuse.
With my past sexual abuse, and his sex addiction (i’ve always known he masturbates a lot) our sex life has never been healthy, and with the baggage of that, my drinking and the new revelations I don’t think I have the energy, the want, the desire to try and work this out. Maybe we will end up stronger with better communication, a deeper relationship, but after reading your site and others, it seems recovery is not very prevalent, and I truly don’t know if I can get past this.Because I needed to feel in control of the relationship to feel safe, it did not allow for my husband to grow and didn’t allow me to have respect for him.We have never had a healthy sex life, until my sobriety.1.) he opened the phone bill and gave me the summary page only, i.e.
no phone detail red flag raised, but moved on with my day 2.) he stopped the mail when we went on an annual beach vacation, pro-activity not his strong suit.Everyone he follows on Instagram appears to be a sexy-looking, half-naked woman.20. OK, maybe his mom, but she doesn't even know what he's up to, and you only met her for an hour.22. When you pick up his phone to do something innocuous like check the time he FREAKS OUT and/or snatches it away from you with some lame excuse like "my mom's texts are embarrassing" or "phones are really personal." 26.